Malala Yousafzai

And I asked my mom actually what were her dreams when she was a kid.

And she said, you know, I just wanted to find a husband who would be respectful and I can go into the city and like have nice food and like drive around in a car.

And I realized that my mom didn't even have a dream for herself.

that marriage was a way for her to find some sort of freedom, a little more freedom than she had right now.

So it was sort of a fascinating time.

When I saw Asar, I immediately fell in love with him.

I knew that I wanted to be with him.

And I knew that we had to be married because in our culture, for two people to be together, you have to be married.

So

But then marriage just felt like a very heavy topic for me.

I even went to read some books.

Yes, I was like, please, Virginia Woolf, help me.

Bell Hooks, can you share a few words of wisdom?

Yeah, I mean, like poor Asar.

I was asking him every possible question about every horrible things that I had seen or heard about.

Like, you know, a husband doesn't allow his wife to work.

A husband has a problem that the wife earns more money.

The husband is of this view that he can marry, like, more wives or things like that.

And he is, you know, okay with, like, telling the wife off or, like, that she has to live by his rules and all of that.

So I said, who knows?