Mallory Ervin
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199 appearances
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1 series
first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
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Yeah. They're definitely still around. Yeah. I think especially to men. And you know what I think? I think God perfectly designed my husband for me because Kyle had a big valet company that he started and owned when we first started dating. He had 80 employees and he had a big business that he had built. And when he started to see my success...
He, his business, he backed out, backed out, backed out, backed out of his business, started editing my YouTube videos. And he truly, slowly over time, he completely gave up his career to be a background role in mine and then to raise our children. so that we could still be very hands-on in raising our children. He is still the one that takes our kids to school every day.
He still watches our children, picks our children up, packs their lunches. It's not like I'm working 8 to 9 p.m. I'm still around a lot. And they have both of their parents present in their lives, which is such a blessing. But to be a man and to choose that is a really...
rare and amazing thing and i think that makes him even more powerful as a husband and a father and a man and i think it's so cool to think about our kids talking about one day you know in 15 years well my mom worked you know building this whatever it is that they talk about building this pajama brand or selling these holiday sweatshirts that we used to be in the photo shoots and all this stuff and my dad stayed home with us i think that's a really powerful thing for them to see
cool journey. And we want to believe that we're past this societal norms, but I agree with you, Jamie. We're not, because I think a lot of men would not do well. A lot of men maybe wouldn't have the opportunity to do what my husband does. Maybe a lot of men would like to stay home with their kids. But, um, I think that, um,
It is just such an amazing thing that he gave up everything, just like my mom did, raising us. She never had a career. Raising children was her identity, was her career for 20 years of her life or more. But yeah, my husband gave up everything for... to take a step back and not back. We shouldn't say back. We should say forward and to do the hardest job. And like I do two jobs.
So I do all of this stuff. And I'm also like a part-time stay-at-home parent. Being a stay-at-home parent is 100 times harder than building a company that's doing $10 million or $100 million in revenue. Mm-hmm. It is harder. It is a harder job. And I'm not just saying that for the pat on the back, for the moms and the dads that do it. It is actually harder.
And you also don't know like, yeah, I see the immediate return on my business. You don't know how these kids are going to turn out for 20 years. So you're like putting in all the work and nobody's saying thank you. You don't even know how it's going to turn out. No one's saying thank you. And ain't nobody paying you. You know?
You're getting beat up every day.
Yes. Rarely. But yes. I think that there are times. Where Kyle looks at the reward of what I'm doing and looks at the reward, a little bit of what he's doing. And he's just like, I'll come home from work sometimes. And he's just like, man, it looks so, that's so fun. Like what you were doing. And he's like, every once in a while, he'll say like, I miss working and I miss building something.
And he's like, I know I'll do it again one day, but he misses it. Yeah. And sometimes like days at the end of the day. And I think that like if you're a working parent that's listening to this and you have a stay at home parent, sometimes whenever I come home and when he's like quiet or he feels like removed or he feels like.
he's exhausted and he's like not saying anything to me or maybe he's like short. And he's like, I am just overstimulated and totally exhausted from these three kids. I think that that is a challenge that a lot of people, because we're always like, well, what did I do? Because we're always thinking about ourselves and it's just like, I just want everything to be okay.
But like learning that and remembering that, that it's just a really hard thing that he's doing whenever he's home with the kids. And remembering when I go home that, He's had a really long, hard, overstimulated day. Like maybe I have a bad day at work, but it's just like so obvious of what it is. Like this happened and that's why I feel this way. I don't think it is with a stay-at-home parent.
It's just like, I just feel like all the life that was in me this morning was sucked out by all of these children.
I think that that's a challenge and something that I've had to learn and meet. with grace and understanding and understand that sometimes his tank is empty at the end of the day. And maybe he doesn't even know why, but it's because of all those children.
It's the best situation because you're still being raised by a parent, but like I get to go and build and do and be, and I also get to come home and be a present parent and like choose my own schedule. And you said a while ago, but it is a privilege to be able to stay, to have a parent to stay at home. And that is something we do not take for granted and we don't think is an automatic thing.
And also, like, that's so interesting that most of your friends are that dynamic. But I also think you living in California and in L.A., it's a different world. Yeah, New York also.
Because in Nashville, Tennessee, it is certainly the other way around, I think. I think that, you know, geographically, demographically, it's just different, different places. Yeah. I feel like I'm in the minority and I feel very lucky. But, you know, there are days that like I'll take my kids to the trampoline place because I still am able to work at my own schedule.
And I'm so fortunate to do that because I can still play a part time stay at home mom role. And there's sometimes, Jamie, where it is so funny that I feel like this, but I do, that we'll go to the trampoline place. I'm sitting there and I'm watching the mom that I know is a full time stay at home mom that doesn't work.
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