Marcela

Don't tell them.

Walk away.

That's how you win.

I'm also testing another reframe I borrowed from an ex-follower that goes like this.

Usual frame.

An insult hurts because it means someone dislikes or disrespects you.

Reframe.

A stranger's opinion of you, even if it gets published in the New York Times, is little more than their personal diary entry.

No one cares what you write in your diary.

That's between you and yourself.

If you choose to make your opinion public, that doesn't suddenly make it matter.

Think of all the dark thoughts you keep to yourself.

Do they matter to anyone else?

Nope, saying a dark opinion in public doesn't suddenly make a matter.

It's still just a diary entry in different form, boring and unimportant.

For completeness, I must explain why you might see me engaging my critics more than my reframe suggests would be wise.

I direct energy to a critic when they make a defamatory and untrue claim of fact that would live forever as truth on the internet unless I deal with it.

In those cases, I want any future sleuths to know the false claim is disputed and why.

So I create an interesting body of semi-abusive content to draw attention away from the false claims to my often funny debunking of it.

For example, a prominent attorney on X accused me of being wrong on my pandemic commentary because I tend to trust institutional data.