Marianne Lewis

And so here's what I mean by that.

You don't get confidence by sitting in a room, keeping the bar low, trying to just mind your own business.

You're never going to build the belief in yourself until you put yourself out there.

I mean, Brene Brown certainly talks about that, this paradoxical interplay between confidence or courage and vulnerability.

I think to me, confidence is very similar in that you build, you learn about yourself, you develop your capabilities, and you certainly grow your confidence.

through failures as well as successes right by knowing what what's possible so when we think about both and thinking we think about a couple of things one is we start with saying you've got to change the kind of questions you ask if you're always saying right should i be brave or should i be vulnerable you're missing the point because they go together and

Right.

How do you start to change this point of how do I build confidence by putting myself out there in uncomfortable situations, by learning through my successes and failures?

Right.

Kind of pushing in these opposing ways.

So to us, changing the question is absolutely vital.

We then also push ourselves and the leaders that we work with to kind of think about how do you take those opposing sides and dive deeply into each one of them?

How do you really understand where, what are your fears coming from, right?

Where do you feel your insecurities?

How do you kind of wrap your arms around what's on that side?

And at the same time, when you think about your courage, where are your strengths, right?

That deeping, actually dividing and really thinking further about both helps you then step back and say, and how do I pull them together?

What's my higher purpose?

How am I holding these in a synergistic format that lets me think, what am I capable of?

if I really push forward?