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well he got really weird and then he said well it's just the guys from the gym and I was like okay and I was like so no girls are going like you don't want me to go and he said well yeah I just kind of want to go with the guys from the gym and I said oh okay no problem like I was trying to get the day off because I wanted to go but so like things like that I guess his ex was like an anxious avoidant where she would make him feel bad for like going out but wouldn't want to spend time with him when he was home

well he got really weird and then he said well it's just the guys from the gym and I was like okay and I was like so no girls are going like you don't want me to go and he said well yeah I just kind of want to go with the guys from the gym and I said oh okay no problem like I was trying to get the day off because I wanted to go but so like things like that I guess his ex was like an anxious avoidant where she would make him feel bad for like going out but wouldn't want to spend time with him when he was home

well he got really weird and then he said well it's just the guys from the gym and I was like okay and I was like so no girls are going like you don't want me to go and he said well yeah I just kind of want to go with the guys from the gym and I said oh okay no problem like I was trying to get the day off because I wanted to go but so like things like that I guess his ex was like an anxious avoidant where she would make him feel bad for like going out but wouldn't want to spend time with him when he was home

I think he was projecting what was being triggered from his past.

I think he was projecting what was being triggered from his past.

I think he was projecting what was being triggered from his past.

Because I was like, I agree. That's a fair question. And we talked about that. And he said, oh, I feel better. So then we tried to work on it. But he was still living with me while he was trying to move out. So the problem was, like, I was asking, like, hey, like, I just need a little reassurance. Like, you can't say you love me. I just need to know you still want to be with me and work on this.

Because I was like, I agree. That's a fair question. And we talked about that. And he said, oh, I feel better. So then we tried to work on it. But he was still living with me while he was trying to move out. So the problem was, like, I was asking, like, hey, like, I just need a little reassurance. Like, you can't say you love me. I just need to know you still want to be with me and work on this.

Because I was like, I agree. That's a fair question. And we talked about that. And he said, oh, I feel better. So then we tried to work on it. But he was still living with me while he was trying to move out. So the problem was, like, I was asking, like, hey, like, I just need a little reassurance. Like, you can't say you love me. I just need to know you still want to be with me and work on this.

And he just was getting more distant and weird. And then... We had a date night and at the end of the date night, I don't know, I just felt like things were off. So I was like, he's not a words of affirmation guy. And I'm very much like, I need to hear it, especially like when you show it in all the other ways, but I need to know what you're thinking. Right.

And he just was getting more distant and weird. And then... We had a date night and at the end of the date night, I don't know, I just felt like things were off. So I was like, he's not a words of affirmation guy. And I'm very much like, I need to hear it, especially like when you show it in all the other ways, but I need to know what you're thinking. Right.

And he just was getting more distant and weird. And then... We had a date night and at the end of the date night, I don't know, I just felt like things were off. So I was like, he's not a words of affirmation guy. And I'm very much like, I need to hear it, especially like when you show it in all the other ways, but I need to know what you're thinking. Right.

So I brought up, I was like, well, can you tell me something to love about me? Like in a joking, funny way, like we're watching TV. And then he just like kind of got weird and was like, don't you're being ridiculous. And I was like, why is that ridiculous? And he just like kind of laughed and was being silly, but saying like, that's ridiculous. And I said, no, it's not.

So I brought up, I was like, well, can you tell me something to love about me? Like in a joking, funny way, like we're watching TV. And then he just like kind of got weird and was like, don't you're being ridiculous. And I was like, why is that ridiculous? And he just like kind of laughed and was being silly, but saying like, that's ridiculous. And I said, no, it's not.

So I brought up, I was like, well, can you tell me something to love about me? Like in a joking, funny way, like we're watching TV. And then he just like kind of got weird and was like, don't you're being ridiculous. And I was like, why is that ridiculous? And he just like kind of laughed and was being silly, but saying like, that's ridiculous. And I said, no, it's not.

And I said, I'm really struggling. Like, I just want to know, like, you care. And then he instead of talking to me, he got up to the other side of the room and was like extremely distant. And then that was the night where I was like, OK, like we're we're having a real fight. issue. And so then I said, I need space, like clearly you need space.

And I said, I'm really struggling. Like, I just want to know, like, you care. And then he instead of talking to me, he got up to the other side of the room and was like extremely distant. And then that was the night where I was like, OK, like we're we're having a real fight. issue. And so then I said, I need space, like clearly you need space.

And I said, I'm really struggling. Like, I just want to know, like, you care. And then he instead of talking to me, he got up to the other side of the room and was like extremely distant. And then that was the night where I was like, OK, like we're we're having a real fight. issue. And so then I said, I need space, like clearly you need space.

And then the week after he went out of town for work for a week. So it gave us that space. And it just like felt like very matter of fact and weird. And so when he came back, I basically told him like, hey, like either we go to couples therapy and like figure this out and like have a guideline on how to like take this slow or we break up because I'm not gonna sit here and wait around for you to

And then the week after he went out of town for work for a week. So it gave us that space. And it just like felt like very matter of fact and weird. And so when he came back, I basically told him like, hey, like either we go to couples therapy and like figure this out and like have a guideline on how to like take this slow or we break up because I'm not gonna sit here and wait around for you to