Mario Harik

I personally believe that's the best way to go from here to here.

Naturally, when you do that, you automatically atrophied that person's brain from them being able to find the best outcome.

So over time, what I realized is that then if I didn't have the time or I wasn't a subject matter expert in a certain area, we just don't get to the optimal solution in a given area.

We just shortcutted that quite a bit.

So then I started learning more and more with time as opposed to

give somebody what I think the solution is.

What I need to do is actually teach them a process where they are analyzing the data and they are coming back to me with insights of what the data is telling them.

Similarly, they are designing a solution.

And in many, many cases, I look at that solution and say, whoa, that's something I didn't even come close to thinking about.

So going back to your question on giving constructive feedback,

What I notice is whenever you give somebody only constructive feedback and you're only telling them where they are falling short, you are missing out on them potentially being great.

And that feedback is now rooted in molding them

into your own perspective, into your own solution to go from point A to point B, as opposed to them potentially being much better than you.

And that's why when I give feedback, I usually always start by the things that makes them great.

What are the things that they are doing that they should keep on doing, that they should amplify, that they should find new ways of actually using those skills, those attributes to create even better things.

And then when it comes to the constructive thesis, I remove the subjective.

I tell them, well, okay, objectively, if I look at this, this is what the data said.

This is what the situation is.

This is kind of how we look at it.

And now they are seeing a different perspective of how they can get better without feeling that they are falling short or getting defensive or building up a wall and then not potentially getting to a better place.