Mariska Hargitay

She was pretty remarkable.

Yeah.

Yeah, there is.

For me, I remember when I was young and I would read old diaries.

I'd say, when will it stop?

The pain is never ending.

And I remember thinking, it's bottomless well.

And I'll never get over it.

And I'll always be this sad.

I'll always be this sad.

And that's when you lose hope.

And then I learned to practice tolerating it.

And when we can tolerate our pain, that's when it dissipates.

And so I practiced that a lot of saying, I'm strong enough to go through this.

And that's what changed everything for me really is that I would practice when I felt sad instead of avoiding it and putting on the frozen smile, I'd be like, I'm really sad.

I'm really sad.

And I would sit in it and I would cry.

But when we cry, we feel better afterwards.

And something happens chemically even in our body where the grief leaves.

And so I've had a lot of practice of sitting in my grief and sitting in my trauma and learning how to talk to myself, but mostly learning to tolerate pain.