Marissa

And he said, hey, Jay, can I talk to you for a minute?

And Sarah was just standing there kind of in the background, just waiting for them to talk.

And SL said, can I talk to him alone?

So that's when Sarah came out to the car and Jay stayed back to talk to SL.

And when Jay and Sarah got back to Jay's apartment, that's when he told her that he had talked to SL and SL said that he was freaking out because I said that I didn't want to have sex and he did it anyways.

And he was really stressed.

I think that has been a huge driving force for me throughout this, that conversation, because I tried to make so many excuses for him, thinking maybe he was too intoxicated and he didn't know what he was doing, or maybe he thought that I felt a specific way about him, but I always come back and ground myself on that conversation.

He knew what he did.

I knew that another one of my friends had a sister who was a victim advocate for rape victims.

She would go to the hospital while victims were getting their CODAR kits, which is also called a rape kit.

She was also just such a supportive friend.

And I called her and

She immediately told me that I needed to go to the emergency room.

She said, whether you press charges or not, it's so important that you have a rape kit.

And I will forever be indebted to her for that.

The night after everything had happened, I went into the hospital and I started the CODAR process.

This doesn't mean that you have to press charges, but the police do have to come.

When I got there, it was sometime in the evening.

My friend Olivia and then my friend who had the sister who was the victim advocate, they both came with me.

They were sitting in the emergency room with me and the hospital registrar came up.