Mark Groves

Yeah. You know, the, the hope for the anxious person is that they won't over pursue, you know, like so much part of the way that they learned how to navigate relationships as little ones is this, like, if you're okay, I'm okay. Like if, if I know that you're here, then I'm good. So really they're, They're an outwardly focus. They're focused on everybody else.

Yeah. You know, the, the hope for the anxious person is that they won't over pursue, you know, like so much part of the way that they learned how to navigate relationships as little ones is this, like, if you're okay, I'm okay. Like if, if I know that you're here, then I'm good. So really they're, They're an outwardly focus. They're focused on everybody else.

And as adults, we might know this as like hypervigilance. We might have a hyperattunement. I would say that people go into coaching and therapeutic spaces. We're likely more anxiously attached.

And as adults, we might know this as like hypervigilance. We might have a hyperattunement. I would say that people go into coaching and therapeutic spaces. We're likely more anxiously attached.

And as adults, we might know this as like hypervigilance. We might have a hyperattunement. I would say that people go into coaching and therapeutic spaces. We're likely more anxiously attached.

Right. Yeah, and even I kind of see it as, like, you're monetizing your survival strategy. You're, like, getting paid for the thing you were naturally developed, really, for survival, you know, developed this really incredible skill to be able to be hypervigilant, notice facial expressions, and predict behavior.

Right. Yeah, and even I kind of see it as, like, you're monetizing your survival strategy. You're, like, getting paid for the thing you were naturally developed, really, for survival, you know, developed this really incredible skill to be able to be hypervigilant, notice facial expressions, and predict behavior.

Right. Yeah, and even I kind of see it as, like, you're monetizing your survival strategy. You're, like, getting paid for the thing you were naturally developed, really, for survival, you know, developed this really incredible skill to be able to be hypervigilant, notice facial expressions, and predict behavior.

And in a way, we're sort of, like, psychically entering the space of other people to try to be predictive, to minimize the risk of being abandoned or rejected. The hope is, of course, that we can learn how to not just act upon our feelings. But this can be really hard. This is where practices like somatic therapy, breath work, meditation, they all extend the pause. You know that quote?

And in a way, we're sort of, like, psychically entering the space of other people to try to be predictive, to minimize the risk of being abandoned or rejected. The hope is, of course, that we can learn how to not just act upon our feelings. But this can be really hard. This is where practices like somatic therapy, breath work, meditation, they all extend the pause. You know that quote?

And in a way, we're sort of, like, psychically entering the space of other people to try to be predictive, to minimize the risk of being abandoned or rejected. The hope is, of course, that we can learn how to not just act upon our feelings. But this can be really hard. This is where practices like somatic therapy, breath work, meditation, they all extend the pause. You know that quote?

I think it's from Viktor Frankl. That's like the space between stimulus responses, a choice. And if you manage to change that choice, you could change your life. I think like the, he said it more eloquently, but the space gets extended through practices of mindfulness, through the ability to, oh, I'm activated because I have a higher predisposition to anxious attachment.

I think it's from Viktor Frankl. That's like the space between stimulus responses, a choice. And if you manage to change that choice, you could change your life. I think like the, he said it more eloquently, but the space gets extended through practices of mindfulness, through the ability to, oh, I'm activated because I have a higher predisposition to anxious attachment.

I think it's from Viktor Frankl. That's like the space between stimulus responses, a choice. And if you manage to change that choice, you could change your life. I think like the, he said it more eloquently, but the space gets extended through practices of mindfulness, through the ability to, oh, I'm activated because I have a higher predisposition to anxious attachment.

Especially if I'm my wife's more prone to avoidance, of course the the joke of the universe, but it's like I Know that previously when I was like 19 or 20, I would just send the text I would just do the thing I would never think about it But now as an adult I can like sense when that's coming up for me Bring that forward because we have a lot of safety in our relationship so

Especially if I'm my wife's more prone to avoidance, of course the the joke of the universe, but it's like I Know that previously when I was like 19 or 20, I would just send the text I would just do the thing I would never think about it But now as an adult I can like sense when that's coming up for me Bring that forward because we have a lot of safety in our relationship so

Especially if I'm my wife's more prone to avoidance, of course the the joke of the universe, but it's like I Know that previously when I was like 19 or 20, I would just send the text I would just do the thing I would never think about it But now as an adult I can like sense when that's coming up for me Bring that forward because we have a lot of safety in our relationship so

noticing what is your predisposition in terms of your attachment style, and then being able to have strategies or practices that allow you to observe what's coming up for you first. And a good therapist, a good coach, a good friend, a good hug can really help with regulating our systems so we don't over text the person we're interested in.

noticing what is your predisposition in terms of your attachment style, and then being able to have strategies or practices that allow you to observe what's coming up for you first. And a good therapist, a good coach, a good friend, a good hug can really help with regulating our systems so we don't over text the person we're interested in.

noticing what is your predisposition in terms of your attachment style, and then being able to have strategies or practices that allow you to observe what's coming up for you first. And a good therapist, a good coach, a good friend, a good hug can really help with regulating our systems so we don't over text the person we're interested in.