Mark Groves

Because of course, what happens is the fear engages in a behavior that just recreates the story.

Because of course, what happens is the fear engages in a behavior that just recreates the story.

Because of course, what happens is the fear engages in a behavior that just recreates the story.

Yeah. And then, you know, for the avoidant attachment, it's really about like, can I stay a little longer in spaces and connection? Can I actually be in relationship to another person and not feel like I'm going to lose myself? You know, because you think about it, it's like a lot of the time what the real underlying fear there, and I've been avoidant.

Yeah. And then, you know, for the avoidant attachment, it's really about like, can I stay a little longer in spaces and connection? Can I actually be in relationship to another person and not feel like I'm going to lose myself? You know, because you think about it, it's like a lot of the time what the real underlying fear there, and I've been avoidant.

Yeah. And then, you know, for the avoidant attachment, it's really about like, can I stay a little longer in spaces and connection? Can I actually be in relationship to another person and not feel like I'm going to lose myself? You know, because you think about it, it's like a lot of the time what the real underlying fear there, and I've been avoidant.

I got really avoidant in my life after I went through a giant betrayal. I got cheated on. And then I didn't know what I was doing for like five years. I would date and be in relationship. And as soon as someone would tell me, I really like you, my stomach would get sick. I would want to withdraw. And they were like on paper, incredible people. They were incredible people, but I just couldn't.

I got really avoidant in my life after I went through a giant betrayal. I got cheated on. And then I didn't know what I was doing for like five years. I would date and be in relationship. And as soon as someone would tell me, I really like you, my stomach would get sick. I would want to withdraw. And they were like on paper, incredible people. They were incredible people, but I just couldn't.

I got really avoidant in my life after I went through a giant betrayal. I got cheated on. And then I didn't know what I was doing for like five years. I would date and be in relationship. And as soon as someone would tell me, I really like you, my stomach would get sick. I would want to withdraw. And they were like on paper, incredible people. They were incredible people, but I just couldn't.

And I was like terror. I always think like in hindsight, I was terrified of women. I was terrified of like a woman who was like, I like you, I choose you. I'm like,

And I was like terror. I always think like in hindsight, I was terrified of women. I was terrified of like a woman who was like, I like you, I choose you. I'm like,

And I was like terror. I always think like in hindsight, I was terrified of women. I was terrified of like a woman who was like, I like you, I choose you. I'm like,

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, I mean, a model of a, that's why I think like a good coach or therapist is so powerful for that because they'll generally be able to model that. But yeah, being able to sit with people that you care about and be able to actually, I mean, eye gazing is really powerful for that with no conversation. But also I think being able to bring forward the fears in relationship is,

Yeah, I mean, a model of a, that's why I think like a good coach or therapist is so powerful for that because they'll generally be able to model that. But yeah, being able to sit with people that you care about and be able to actually, I mean, eye gazing is really powerful for that with no conversation. But also I think being able to bring forward the fears in relationship is,

Yeah, I mean, a model of a, that's why I think like a good coach or therapist is so powerful for that because they'll generally be able to model that. But yeah, being able to sit with people that you care about and be able to actually, I mean, eye gazing is really powerful for that with no conversation. But also I think being able to bring forward the fears in relationship is,

You know, because when I was more avoidant, it was that I did not know... The underlying story that lived in my mind was that when I loved people, they were going to leave me or betray me.

You know, because when I was more avoidant, it was that I did not know... The underlying story that lived in my mind was that when I loved people, they were going to leave me or betray me.