Mark Manson

Right.

There's a lot of that that goes on too, right?

Exactly.

I would say this was like what I felt intensely after my friend died is I really just sat around for like the next month

obsessively thinking about like what have i been doing for years like i've been wasting my entire life for years step three is that there is a forced reconstruction they often call this uh the crisis of step two an existential vacuum it's basically there's a void of meaning of like where your understanding of yourself and the world is and vacuums

they always get filled, right?

So at some point you start to reconstruct meaning in your life.

You start deciding on new values, a new identity, new things that you want to be in the world.

Even though you're deciding these things, this is still not really a euphoric thing.

It's still, there's a lot of uncertainty, right?

It's like, okay, the old me was doing everything wrong.

The new me, I have some ideas about how I wanna be in the world, but I've never lived this way before.

I've never been this person before.

So I don't totally know if I'm doing it right.

I don't know if this is actually the way I should be.

I really experienced this after I stopped drinking, there was definitely this extended period of like, I don't know what I like anymore.

I don't know what type of people I like going out with anymore.

I don't know what my hobbies are anymore.

Right.

And so then I was like kind of just being like, well, I guess I'll be a surfer and see what happens.