Mark Manson

So I am very introverted, but a big part of my job is doing public events, like going and doing public speaking, going and meeting like hundreds of fans, right?

Doing tons of media, like a dozen interviews in a single afternoon.

It can be exhausting.

And so I have had to learn the behaviors and build up a skill set so that I can be adaptable to my environment.

But that doesn't necessarily change who I am.

It just simply is building an adaptation that fits in with my personality.

And even then, it's even though I've built that skill set, I do a fraction of the speaking and appearances that a lot of other people don't.

in our industry do.

And a lot of that's just driven by my personality.

It's important to understand the personality because A, it sets the parameters of like kind of who you can be.

And then B, it helps you understand which behaviors are reasonable to pursue and which ones are maybe a little bit less reasonable to pursue.

Now, the interesting thing about this three layer cake of personality is that

everybody kind of ended up being partially right.

Right.

Right.

So like Gordon Alport was right.

And all the personality psychologists were right.

And that like you do have these baked in tendencies that are very measurable and appear repeatedly across cultures and across languages and across contexts and time.

Walter Mischel was also correct in that situations matter and most behavior is adaptable and you can change behavior depending on the situation, the environment.

And funny enough, Freud was also correct because Freud's theory of the ego was that our self-identity, the way we come to see ourselves and identify ourselves, is itself an adaptation between who we are and our environment, which fits right in with this.