Mark Manson

Nobody can say you have not tried.

And yet, you are still the same you, still caught in the same patterns that you have tried to escape, and you're still in the same petty feud with your mailman since 2009.

I've never met my mailman, for the record.

Fortunately, I have some good news, but I also have some bad news.

The good news is, all of that fruitless effort is not evidence that you're a lazy sack of shit.

Or it might be, actually.

We'll get to that.

You're not uniquely doomed to always be the same hapless lost soul you think you are.

You can change.

Change is just really fucking hard.

But the bad news is that you can't change everything about yourself, and you definitely cannot change all of the things at once.

There is a subtle art to change, and we're here today to uncover how all of it works.

And here's what most people get wrong.

Most people don't fail at change because they lack discipline or commitment or the right morning routine.

They fail because they keep aiming at the wrong target over and over for years on end.

What we're going to discover is that who you are is actually a layered system.

And if you don't know which layer you're dealing with, it doesn't matter how hard you try.

It doesn't matter how many tactics or tips you implement.

It's just not going to work.

You can be a genuinely motivated person solving the wrong problem.