Mark Manson

So in this episode of Solved, we're going to talk about why your brain is actively working against you every time you try to change and why insight, self-awareness, and understanding your patterns on its own can be almost completely useless.

We're going to talk about why the most popular personality tests in the world, taken by millions of people every year, predicts almost nothing useful about you and what actually does.

We're going to talk about the real reason you revert to your old self every time you go home for the holidays and why it has nothing to do with how triggering your parents are.

We'll discuss how the world came to misunderstand the most famous psychology experiment about self-control and what the researchers were actually arguing for.

We'll get into why trying to suppress a bad habit is one of the most reliable ways to make sure it sticks.

We'll talk about the one category of change that is faster, deeper, and more permanent than anything else in psychology and the four-step pattern behind every single case of it.

And we'll talk about why harrowing traumatic events often lead to the most durable change in your life.

This and much, much more.

The argument that we're going to make in this episode is that you're not stuck because you're a lazy sack of shit or cosmically cursed, but because you've spent years heroically trying to change the wrong layer of yourself.

We're going to point you to the right layer and then give you the actual practical steps to change.

Because once you understand which part of you actually needs to change, it stops feeling like a character flaw and it starts feeling like a problem with an actual solution.

One that does not require you to wake up at 4 a.m.

and inject exotic vegetable juices directly into your bloodstream every day.

Does anybody do that?

I am New York Times bestselling author Mark Manson, and this is Drew Burney, my co-host, producer, lead researcher, and the only person who has ever been known to formally ask to stop raising his hand in therapy.

Oh boy.

And this is Solved, the most comprehensive podcast in the world where every episode we aim to solve one problem in your life once and for all.

Today, we are solving how to change, how it happens, how to do it, and how to make sure it sticks.

Let's do it.

I'm already tired.