Mark Manson

You, right?

Yeah.

It's like you can't dance around.

You can dance around that for a year, you know, maybe a few years.

It's a shitty feeling when you internalize it, too.

But once you get like 10, 20 years in, it's like, okay, I can't pretend this is not the common thread through all of these.

It is funny.

I think people...

there's a natural reluctance to accept responsibility and ownership because I think people tend to confuse responsibility with blame, right?

So it's, and a lot of this just I think comes with the way we're raised and maybe the legal system, but like the idea is that if I'm responsible for my failure, that means it's my fault.

That means I'm a failure or I'm a loser in some way.

There's like some moral judgment that should come down on me.

But interestingly, like I think those faults and responsibility are actually two different things.

And while they can sometimes happen together, they can actually happen independently as well.

Like the example I use in my book is that, you know, if you wake up one morning and somebody has left a newborn infant on your doorstep, it's not your fault that that infant is there, but you are absolutely responsible now.

You have to take care of this situation.

Or like if,

If I walk across the street after this podcast and I get hit by a car, it's not my fault I got hit by a car, but it's my responsibility to recover.

And it's my responsibility to go to PT and get the appropriate surgeries and take care of my body and make sure I'm rested.

So it's...