Mark Manson

Or telling myself that I shouldn't ever waste my time.

I should optimize every moment that I'm awake

every single day.

Like there's a lot of kind of values based identity based beliefs and concepts that we like become very emotionally invested in.

Freud defined the ego as an adaptation to our environment.

Freud was not aware of personality research at the time he was writing, but it is still, I think conceptually is still correct that like the ego forms as a way for us to negotiate the gaps between

who we actually are, biologically speaking, and then like, and how we get our needs met from the environment around us.

Yeah, it's a lot of these narratives, we age out of them, but it's hard to let them go.

It's really hard to let them go.

I probably hung on to mine for about 10 years too long at least.

Yeah, that narrative probably served you very well.

It was probably a very useful adaptation for many years,

until it wasn't.

And then it's, you know, then you have to go through that whole process.

Anyway, it's interesting because if you look at the different therapeutic modalities, like they, they all seem to kind of target certain adaptations more than others.

Right.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So, you know.

I think that might be too simplistic.