Mark Manson

It is.

Yeah.

It is.

Speaking from experience.

Yep.

And then I think the last reason that adaptations are so hard to actually address and change is because they don't exist in a vacuum.

They do exist in this vast network of...

belief systems, emotional patterns and behavioral patterns, behavioral habits.

So like when you're trying to change your eating habits, for instance, right, you think about a diet, you think about maybe tracking your calories.

What you don't think about is all of the

social meals that you have with people and how that's going to affect your ability to eat well or not how maybe the way your family connects with you is by like bringing over desserts or going out drinking together that it's going to alter your social life how much you see certain friends the capacity that you're able to see those friends how much you emotionally regulate with food maybe that too right it's like maybe you've got some

underlying anxiety that you've like numbed yourself with food constantly don't notice it yeah there's like all these knock-on effects all these dominoes going out in different directions that

It's very hard to conceptualize when you're trying to attack a specific adaptation in isolation.

Right.

Because it disrupts the others.

Is that what you're saying?

Right.

My heavy drinking was an adaptation to my need for novelty seeking, my high openness to experience and my relative introversion.

And that served me really well when I was young.

I had all these amazing experiences and I really like