Mark Manson

A lot of social situations, a lot of parties that,

went to and was like, wow, I'm bored.

I'm actually not having fun here.

It actually created a little bit of an identity crisis in that I didn't really know what I found fun anymore.

And I didn't know what I wanted to do anymore.

And a lot of the things that I cured with alcohol, I started curing with other things.

So I started working more compulsively.

I started playing video games more compulsively.

I started working out more compulsively.

And there were all these knock on effects in my marriage and my friendships, my social life, my calendar that I was completely unprepared for, like did not expect.

I've talked to some some recovered addicts and a lot of them.

have told me, they've said, you know, it's quitting the substance isn't the hardest part.

It's the staying off the substance, right?

It's those second order effects of like, oh, well, how am I gonna relate to my friends if I quit and they're still using?

Or what am I gonna do for fun if I can't be drunk?

Like, I don't know what I enjoy doing anymore.

So I think I went through a lot of that to like a much lesser extent, like, you know, less extreme, but it does make it very, very challenging.

I think I have by now.

The other interesting thing too is that it kind of unearthed a lot of stuff.

You know, I was diagnosed with ADHD.