Mark Manson

Most people are not able to maintain changes in their behaviors over a long period of time.

It is exceptionally difficult.

So it's the maintenance phase.

And then there's the relapse phase, which I kind of love how it's just baked in here.

You're going to fuck up.

Yeah.

You're going to fuck up.

Nobody nails the landing on the first try.

It's going to take a few swings and you're going to have to like get back on the horse.

How many metaphors can I use here?

So where would you say you are with the avoidance stuff?

I think the issue is that you've learned how to perform reciprocation.

You're not actually emotionally reciprocating that bid for affection.

And so, yes, you are technically behaving in the correct way, but actually the behavior that you need to change has not been accessed yet.

The fear you mean?

Can I be obnoxious and say a thing that you probably know but don't want to hear?

When have you ever asked me that question before?

You know this.

I know you know this.

I'm good at denial, like I said.