Mark Manson

You can kind of obsess about all these details and it's like, oh, that one study in 1983 said this.

So like, let me, let me go read about that.

Okay.

Now you're just attacking me, but okay.

All right.

Sorry.

Sorry.

Sorry.

That was not, that was not personal.

No, no, no.

This is what makes this layer so hard.

You're almost like pulling at strands in a very complex knot.

And-

Not only do you have to know which strands to pull, but you need to know what order to pull them in sometimes.

And so you can spend years just like pulling the wrong thing at the wrong time and not knowing why nothing's changing.

And then you suddenly start pulling on a different one and it's like, boom, you know, half of it comes undone.

I actually think this is a nice place to segue into the new chapter because, I mean, at this point we've talked about

the personality traits, the things that you're not really going to change.

This section, we've talked all about the adaptations, right?

All these like multiple layers of ourselves and our ego and our beliefs and all this stuff.