Mark Manson

I'm terrible at it. And it's something that I've had to be very conscious about. And it's like, it's silly because it's the superficial stuff. Like when I'm in person, and you can attest to this, like when we're in front of each other, It's great. I can talk all day. We can hang out. Everything's good.

I'm terrible at it. And it's something that I've had to be very conscious about. And it's like, it's silly because it's the superficial stuff. Like when I'm in person, and you can attest to this, like when we're in front of each other, It's great. I can talk all day. We can hang out. Everything's good.

But it's for some reason that connection, that texting, the calling, the responding, the emails, the scheduling stuff. I'm always really bad about that. And it seems silly because it's the superficial side of it. But I don't know. Part of it is just... you know, being busy, quote unquote, like we all are.

But it's for some reason that connection, that texting, the calling, the responding, the emails, the scheduling stuff. I'm always really bad about that. And it seems silly because it's the superficial side of it. But I don't know. Part of it is just... you know, being busy, quote unquote, like we all are.

But part of it, too, like sometimes I wonder if it's if it isn't a little bit of residue from like that social anxiety I was talking about. Sure. You know, if like I'm like, weekend's coming up. I want to do something with somebody, but I don't know who.

But part of it, too, like sometimes I wonder if it's if it isn't a little bit of residue from like that social anxiety I was talking about. Sure. You know, if like I'm like, weekend's coming up. I want to do something with somebody, but I don't know who.

I don't know what to invite them to. What if it's something lame? What if they don't want to come? They can say no. There's probably some really subtle residual stuff like that down there. Or maybe I just never developed the skill. Yeah, yeah.

I don't know what to invite them to. What if it's something lame? What if they don't want to come? They can say no. There's probably some really subtle residual stuff like that down there. Or maybe I just never developed the skill. Yeah, yeah.

Yeah. That's another skill.

Yeah. That's another skill.

I need to say no. So a lot of people struggle with this.

I need to say no. So a lot of people struggle with this.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So what is like the first step?

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So what is like the first step?

Anyways. That's another, that's actually a great self-awareness point is that we all default to assuming that people do what we do or think the way that we think, right? That it's, and it's crazy because people are completely different. And it's interesting too because the say no thing It's funny because I probably have a very similar reaction that you have hearing my problem.

Anyways. That's another, that's actually a great self-awareness point is that we all default to assuming that people do what we do or think the way that we think, right? That it's, and it's crazy because people are completely different. And it's interesting too because the say no thing It's funny because I probably have a very similar reaction that you have hearing my problem.

Because when I'm hearing you talk, I'm like... It's so easy. Yeah. I'm like, well, yeah, you just say no to everybody. And then the people who are really your friends will stick around. And I'm like... And I'm like, it's solved, right? The problem's solved. But you probably hear my problem. You're like, yeah, just text everybody. And the people who want to see you will text back.

Because when I'm hearing you talk, I'm like... It's so easy. Yeah. I'm like, well, yeah, you just say no to everybody. And then the people who are really your friends will stick around. And I'm like... And I'm like, it's solved, right? The problem's solved. But you probably hear my problem. You're like, yeah, just text everybody. And the people who want to see you will text back.

Yeah. Did you have any fallout? Did you have any, like, people get... Yeah.

Yeah. Did you have any fallout? Did you have any, like, people get... Yeah.