Mark Manson

I've changed in my life.

Like there's got to be a more objective way to measure these things of measure who is a person and then how do they change over time?

And so when he returned to grad school, he switched to psychology and he decided to tackle this problem.

Yeah, I mean, in some ways you feel...

trapped i mean there's certain certainly things about myself that i feel like trapped in sometimes and then there's there are other things where i'm like no i'm just being lazy right right or like you you know you see something you do that like your dad did right and you're like well that's just how i am because of that yeah because of my get into all of that right right there's there's that real tension we all feel that yeah we're always answering that question too

It turns out it's completely natural to feel those two sides of the tension.

And we're gonna explain in this chapter the psychological explanation of why each person feels that tension within themselves and how both sides of that tension are simultaneously true.

But before we answer whether change is actually possible, we actually have to look at a more important question, which is how do you even measure what somebody is?

How can you even measure change until you know who a person is in the first place?

And it starts in a very unusual place, which is a dictionary.

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