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made some mistakes and, and like went to visit a place that he knew probably had some bad stuff there.

And yeah.

Okay, so I'll just say it.

He's a tier two sex offender for pandering images, but that wasn't the whole thing.

He went to a porn site, and apparently that specific porn site...

has the reputation of having illegal content.

So the wrong that he did is like any reasonable person going to this website should already know that you could come across something illegal.

And he went to that porn site consciously.

I'm pretty sure he did know.

And here's the catch.

I'm a little of an online snoop.

So I actually found out all of this information before our first date.

And I made the judgment call that I felt like...

there's more nuance to the situation.

And there is, there is.

Well, when we first started talking, like it was just like the casual banter.

He was making some some jokes about something.

But then I was trying to reference something on his profile because he said that he specifically wanted to go slow and he was looking for a hookup.

So I kind of like segued away from the joking and I went straight into the deep questions.

And I said, like, what's your definition of going slow?