Mary

I was going to say days.

Yeah.

Okay.

All right.

And then for my peace of mind going into the conversation, since this is nuanced, that basically implies this is not a black and white situation.

Because most people would say this is a very black and white and you have to cut ties immediately.

Yeah.

because i don't know like like is there like a universal truth that like he is not like like people with that label shouldn't you should not give them give them a chance like i feel like that's like that's kind of like the universal truth that i don't know i mean like this is kind of a crazy example but one of the most popular movies out there is shawshank redemption i bring it up because the one of the main characters are you familiar with the movie

Yep, you're right.

And I knew that.

I knew that.

And I feel like I was trying to figure out all the other aspects before doing it.

Part of me felt like me having to be the one to bring it up would be the ultimate red flag deal breaker because part of me feels like the integrity piece of it.

I feel like his integrity is still intact.

He still has the opportunity to tell me.

But I got the secret that I knew already.

And worst case scenario.

And he does try to like flip it back and make me the problem.

What would a good response to him be?

And at that point, there's no chance of... I don't think so.