Matt Abrahams

So if we're having a conversation, Hala, and you say, hey, I just got back from Hawaii. And I say, oh, which island did you go to? That's a supporting tactic. That invites you to say more. If I say, oh, I just got back from Costa Rica, that's a switching tactic. You want to balance these out.

It is normal and natural in the presence of somebody you admire, in the presence of somebody who is very qualified and accomplished. to want to do well and to be nervous. That makes complete sense. So allow yourself that permission to be nervous and then remind yourself that you have value to bring, that you can do some things in that moment.

It is normal and natural in the presence of somebody you admire, in the presence of somebody who is very qualified and accomplished. to want to do well and to be nervous. That makes complete sense. So allow yourself that permission to be nervous and then remind yourself that you have value to bring, that you can do some things in that moment.

It is normal and natural in the presence of somebody you admire, in the presence of somebody who is very qualified and accomplished. to want to do well and to be nervous. That makes complete sense. So allow yourself that permission to be nervous and then remind yourself that you have value to bring, that you can do some things in that moment.

It is normal and natural in the presence of somebody you admire, in the presence of somebody who is very qualified and accomplished. to want to do well and to be nervous. That makes complete sense. So allow yourself that permission to be nervous and then remind yourself that you have value to bring, that you can do some things in that moment.

It is normal and natural in the presence of somebody you admire, in the presence of somebody who is very qualified and accomplished. to want to do well and to be nervous. That makes complete sense. So allow yourself that permission to be nervous and then remind yourself that you have value to bring, that you can do some things in that moment.

And the research suggests you want to be slightly more supporting than switching, because that puts the other person in the position of you demonstrating interest and you wanting to hear what they have to say. The same ideas apply to disclosure of our own stories. We want to share some, but not too much.

And the research suggests you want to be slightly more supporting than switching, because that puts the other person in the position of you demonstrating interest and you wanting to hear what they have to say. The same ideas apply to disclosure of our own stories. We want to share some, but not too much.

And the research suggests you want to be slightly more supporting than switching, because that puts the other person in the position of you demonstrating interest and you wanting to hear what they have to say. The same ideas apply to disclosure of our own stories. We want to share some, but not too much.

And the research suggests you want to be slightly more supporting than switching, because that puts the other person in the position of you demonstrating interest and you wanting to hear what they have to say. The same ideas apply to disclosure of our own stories. We want to share some, but not too much.

And the research suggests you want to be slightly more supporting than switching, because that puts the other person in the position of you demonstrating interest and you wanting to hear what they have to say. The same ideas apply to disclosure of our own stories. We want to share some, but not too much.

And as you said, your conversation yesterday turned out great. He didn't even know you were nervous. So we have to remind ourselves of that. The biggest thing that can help here is reflection, not rumination, but reflection. Reflect now, Hala, on how and what you did to get yourself through that.

And as you said, your conversation yesterday turned out great. He didn't even know you were nervous. So we have to remind ourselves of that. The biggest thing that can help here is reflection, not rumination, but reflection. Reflect now, Hala, on how and what you did to get yourself through that.

And as you said, your conversation yesterday turned out great. He didn't even know you were nervous. So we have to remind ourselves of that. The biggest thing that can help here is reflection, not rumination, but reflection. Reflect now, Hala, on how and what you did to get yourself through that.

And as you said, your conversation yesterday turned out great. He didn't even know you were nervous. So we have to remind ourselves of that. The biggest thing that can help here is reflection, not rumination, but reflection. Reflect now, Hala, on how and what you did to get yourself through that.

And as you said, your conversation yesterday turned out great. He didn't even know you were nervous. So we have to remind ourselves of that. The biggest thing that can help here is reflection, not rumination, but reflection. Reflect now, Hala, on how and what you did to get yourself through that.

We should be communicating in a way that gets the other person to talk more, but we still have to share some of our stories. So the rule of thumb that they have in this switching versus supporting approach is you want two-thirds supporting, one-third switching.

We should be communicating in a way that gets the other person to talk more, but we still have to share some of our stories. So the rule of thumb that they have in this switching versus supporting approach is you want two-thirds supporting, one-third switching.

We should be communicating in a way that gets the other person to talk more, but we still have to share some of our stories. So the rule of thumb that they have in this switching versus supporting approach is you want two-thirds supporting, one-third switching.

We should be communicating in a way that gets the other person to talk more, but we still have to share some of our stories. So the rule of thumb that they have in this switching versus supporting approach is you want two-thirds supporting, one-third switching.