Matt

We had our miscarriage.

We've had a lot of stuff.

But I think from my experience, I think the hardest phase was like the newborn stage mixed with then dealing with two under two.

So, okay.

So let's, yeah, let's keep talking about this.

So that's year one through two, end of the honeymoon stage.

Then we have year three to five.

Again, all of our sources that we're getting this information from in the description.

Year three to five, reality sets in.

So you have disillusionment grows as reality hits.

Major discussions about finances, housing, and family planning often surface.

Gosh, I mean, I feel so blessed, Abby, that you are a frugal queen and that you don't

obviously we spend more money now than we spent, you know, a couple of years ago, but I still like, I appreciate that.

Like when you go and buy clothes, you'll be like, since I'm the one who like checks our rocket money and checks the numbers and make sure we're hitting our investment goals and hitting our savings goals.

You're like, Hey, am I good to go spend, you know, might be like $500 at Abercrombie on clothes.

I'll be like, you know, that's what, that's what it usually is.

Right.

Like clothes are expensive.

And, and I appreciate how you like,

like i think we like run purchases by each other which i like i appreciate well we have transparency in finances yeah i think that's like the best policy there's random things like i think i bought a a mat that says you know take off your shoes and i don't think i ran that purchase by you which that ended up being the mat that the floor mat we have in our garage was not the cost of the mat it was just i was like people can keep their shoes on in my house okay