Meg Jay

And before I go on, let me say that everything I'm about to talk about also applies to all of us out there who are well beyond our 20s.

But for a little bit of background, in 2013, I gave a talk about why our 20s matter.

So it's about almost 10 years later.

I'm still a clinical psychologist who specializes in 20-somethings.

But these days, the 20-somethings I see, they know their 20s matter.

So they want to get them right.

They want to move to the right city.

They want to take the right job.

They want to find the right partner.

They want to have the right answers.

Well, the bad news is there are no right answers.

There are no right answers for where you should live or where you should work or how you should settle down.

These are what are called large world problems because there are just too many unknowns.

No app, no algorithm, no Enneagram can ever solve these problems or answer these questions for you.

But the good news is because there are no right answers, there are no wrong answers.

There are only your answers.

So your 20s are a great time to listen to and be honest with yourself.

They're a great time to have a conversation with your future self.

So philosopher Derek Parfit said, we neglect our future selves because of some sort of failure of belief or imagination.

So I'm going to say that again because it's really important.