Megan Kozak

So I want you to check whether the pressure feels internal or external, okay?

So is it me?

Am I putting pressure on myself to get somewhere that I'm not ready to get to yet?

Right?

I'm not ready to say it yet.

I don't feel it yet.

I'm not ready to let the words come out of my mouth yet because they mean something really big for me.

So is it internal or is it external?

This person is saying that they'll leave if I don't say it back.

This person is saying that I'm not a good person if I don't say it back.

That if I really loved them, I would do X, Y, and Z. I'd at least say or do this, right?

They mean two really different things.

If it's coming from me, slow down, right?

Notice where that voice is coming from and allow you to take your own pace to get there.

If it's coming from someone else, I would probably start by naming it really gently and going, why does it feel really important for you to hear it right now?

What a beautiful question.

So I think that there are four broad categories that I get you to look for physical, emotional, intellectual, experiential, those four areas I get you to think about, right?

So physical, my body feels safe with your body, right?

Includes sex, but it's not limited to sex, right?

Second one, emotional, my heart feels safe with your heart.