Meggan Roxanne

And it was through these experiences that I had no other choice but to seek forgiveness because I was spending a lot of time with him. And then there were a lot of unanswered questions, a lot of things that I needed for my own journey, a lot of things that I wanted to, a lot of chapters that I wanted to close for my mother, even though she passed away, just for the principle of it.

And it was through these experiences that I had no other choice but to seek forgiveness because I was spending a lot of time with him. And then there were a lot of unanswered questions, a lot of things that I needed for my own journey, a lot of things that I wanted to, a lot of chapters that I wanted to close for my mother, even though she passed away, just for the principle of it.

You know, so my grandfather and I did a lot of talking. When I became more aware of his reasonings, his justifications, which weren't great at all, but transparently truthful, I then started to develop a level of respect for him. It takes a lot of

You know, so my grandfather and I did a lot of talking. When I became more aware of his reasonings, his justifications, which weren't great at all, but transparently truthful, I then started to develop a level of respect for him. It takes a lot of

bravery and courage at 90 years old to admit where you've gone wrong in life and actually apologise to somebody less than half your age, especially if it's not part of your culture or it's not something that you've been raised to do. So, When my grandfather passed away, you know, I went to view his body and I sat there and I just thought to myself, it is well. It is well, the chapter is closed.

bravery and courage at 90 years old to admit where you've gone wrong in life and actually apologise to somebody less than half your age, especially if it's not part of your culture or it's not something that you've been raised to do. So, When my grandfather passed away, you know, I went to view his body and I sat there and I just thought to myself, it is well. It is well, the chapter is closed.

I broke that curse. Moving on, my children don't have to hear about their great-grandfather with so much anger in my voice. I can just say... I could talk about the last two years. I don't have to talk about everything that happened before because I've healed past that. And the reason why we do heal, obviously for our own harmony, but so we don't pass on more pain.

I broke that curse. Moving on, my children don't have to hear about their great-grandfather with so much anger in my voice. I can just say... I could talk about the last two years. I don't have to talk about everything that happened before because I've healed past that. And the reason why we do heal, obviously for our own harmony, but so we don't pass on more pain.

I didn't have to inherit my family's pain and trauma, but I did. But it's my duty and my job to ensure that I don't pass it on. And I think that's what my mother did. was trying to teach me behind the importance of forgiveness is to put a final stop to it so that you can move on and live your life. But you have to forgive. Because I had so much anger in my heart for my grandfather.

I didn't have to inherit my family's pain and trauma, but I did. But it's my duty and my job to ensure that I don't pass it on. And I think that's what my mother did. was trying to teach me behind the importance of forgiveness is to put a final stop to it so that you can move on and live your life. But you have to forgive. Because I had so much anger in my heart for my grandfather.

But then when I saw him and his... Little efforts of determination to get walking again, or I might go and see him in the morning and he might make me some pilau, you know, or some curry goat and pilau or whatnot. And I think, OK, there's something bubbling here and I'm not going to be the person to interrupt that. Let me just see where this journey takes us. So when he passed away, I...

But then when I saw him and his... Little efforts of determination to get walking again, or I might go and see him in the morning and he might make me some pilau, you know, or some curry goat and pilau or whatnot. And I think, OK, there's something bubbling here and I'm not going to be the person to interrupt that. Let me just see where this journey takes us. So when he passed away, I...

I was happy for him. I was happy that he was able to transition. I prayed for him and I was able to walk away knowing that I don't have to carry that burden anymore.

I was happy for him. I was happy that he was able to transition. I prayed for him and I was able to walk away knowing that I don't have to carry that burden anymore.

Mm-hmm. Growing up, I witnessed my mother do various things to contribute to her healing, whether it was yoga, whether it was going for walks, meditation, simply spending time alone. Also forgiving, enforcing her boundaries, which was really difficult for her. She was the first child of six siblings. So she didn't really get to enforce her boundaries, nor did her siblings care or honor them.

Mm-hmm. Growing up, I witnessed my mother do various things to contribute to her healing, whether it was yoga, whether it was going for walks, meditation, simply spending time alone. Also forgiving, enforcing her boundaries, which was really difficult for her. She was the first child of six siblings. So she didn't really get to enforce her boundaries, nor did her siblings care or honor them.

And I watched that growing up. And I think one of the most profound experiences that I spoke about in the book was when she bumped into her father when they were in Sainsbury's and they reunited and they had their conversations and she ended up looking after him. And there was one day where he was rude to her. And I remember coming home from college and... She was cooking really fast.

And I watched that growing up. And I think one of the most profound experiences that I spoke about in the book was when she bumped into her father when they were in Sainsbury's and they reunited and they had their conversations and she ended up looking after him. And there was one day where he was rude to her. And I remember coming home from college and... She was cooking really fast.

And I could just smell the curry from downstairs. And I was like, okay, it's the middle of the week. Mum usually cooks on a Sunday. Are we having guests? No. The guest was the anger that came from the experience she had of her father. She enforced her boundary. And it was the first time she's done it in years and she didn't know how to respond.

And I could just smell the curry from downstairs. And I was like, okay, it's the middle of the week. Mum usually cooks on a Sunday. Are we having guests? No. The guest was the anger that came from the experience she had of her father. She enforced her boundary. And it was the first time she's done it in years and she didn't know how to respond.