Meggan Roxanne

And I watched that and I watched how it actually strengthened the relationship with her father because he started to respect it. And I think he also realized there's no one else left. So if I'm going to have this relationship, I'm going to have to ensure that I stick to the rules to keep it healthy.

And I watched that and I watched how it actually strengthened the relationship with her father because he started to respect it. And I think he also realized there's no one else left. So if I'm going to have this relationship, I'm going to have to ensure that I stick to the rules to keep it healthy.

So with me now, with the same man, having to go through the same experiences, my boundary enforcement came very quickly. There was one day where I bought him a bottle of Guinness. You know, he did a lot of things that day and we did a reward system where if he did a hundred steps, you know, and this and that will give him something.

So with me now, with the same man, having to go through the same experiences, my boundary enforcement came very quickly. There was one day where I bought him a bottle of Guinness. You know, he did a lot of things that day and we did a reward system where if he did a hundred steps, you know, and this and that will give him something.

He loved Guinness, so I bought him a bottle of Guinness and it was warm. So he kind of threw it at me and he was like, put it in the freezer, it's warm. And I said, actually, what I'm going to do is I'm going to go home and I'm going to leave the bottle right there and you can put it in the freezer yourself. I'm not having that. That is absolutely rude.

He loved Guinness, so I bought him a bottle of Guinness and it was warm. So he kind of threw it at me and he was like, put it in the freezer, it's warm. And I said, actually, what I'm going to do is I'm going to go home and I'm going to leave the bottle right there and you can put it in the freezer yourself. I'm not having that. That is absolutely rude.

And I got up and I left and he called me and he called me and he called me and I picked up and I said, I'm not coming back until you apologise because that was really rude. And when I got back, he made breakfast, you know, he, he cleaned downstairs, like everything that I usually get him to do every day, he did it all in one day.

And I got up and I left and he called me and he called me and he called me and I picked up and I said, I'm not coming back until you apologise because that was really rude. And when I got back, he made breakfast, you know, he, he cleaned downstairs, like everything that I usually get him to do every day, he did it all in one day.

And, you know, he apologized and sat down and we had a conversation and I said to him, moving forward, this is not happening. Because I'm not going to care for you and deplete my own energy at the same time. That's insane. But I've watched my mother do that. So throughout this entire process, I just learned that my no is my no, my yes is my yes. If I don't like something, I tell the person.

And, you know, he apologized and sat down and we had a conversation and I said to him, moving forward, this is not happening. Because I'm not going to care for you and deplete my own energy at the same time. That's insane. But I've watched my mother do that. So throughout this entire process, I just learned that my no is my no, my yes is my yes. If I don't like something, I tell the person.

I don't feel bad about telling the person because... What's the other option? I take the bad treatment while they're none the wiser that is hurting me. It doesn't serve anybody. So the boundary enforcement, I think I gained a lot of confidence over the span of two years, looking after my grandfather, enforcing my boundaries, standing in my word and not being scared.

I don't feel bad about telling the person because... What's the other option? I take the bad treatment while they're none the wiser that is hurting me. It doesn't serve anybody. So the boundary enforcement, I think I gained a lot of confidence over the span of two years, looking after my grandfather, enforcing my boundaries, standing in my word and not being scared.

And that was one of the most powerful things that I learned. So it wasn't difficult. It was more, if I respect myself and love myself, I will put these boundaries in place so that I don't deplete myself every time I come to visit this person.

And that was one of the most powerful things that I learned. So it wasn't difficult. It was more, if I respect myself and love myself, I will put these boundaries in place so that I don't deplete myself every time I come to visit this person.

And if they respect and love and honor me and even are thankful for my devotion to caring for them, they will ensure that the environment is healthy and safe. And that was literally the case. If it wasn't, I would have just walked away, paid the NHS staff to look after him and check in every now and then because I have to put myself first. And I learned that with my mother's story as well.

And if they respect and love and honor me and even are thankful for my devotion to caring for them, they will ensure that the environment is healthy and safe. And that was literally the case. If it wasn't, I would have just walked away, paid the NHS staff to look after him and check in every now and then because I have to put myself first. And I learned that with my mother's story as well.

Okay, so from the chronic people pleaser myself, I would say just acknowledging the fact that you do not control somebody's happiness. It doesn't matter if you give them everything they want. There's going to be another factor in their lives that's going to implicate their ability to be completely happy. So it's not your responsibility. It's not your purpose to make other people happy.

Okay, so from the chronic people pleaser myself, I would say just acknowledging the fact that you do not control somebody's happiness. It doesn't matter if you give them everything they want. There's going to be another factor in their lives that's going to implicate their ability to be completely happy. So it's not your responsibility. It's not your purpose to make other people happy.

And it's a job that's never going to have a reward because there's so many factors to our happiness anyway. One person can't achieve that. So for me, with People Please, and I just realized that as much as I do want to make this person happy, my happiness also matters. is valid and it's also important to me.

And it's a job that's never going to have a reward because there's so many factors to our happiness anyway. One person can't achieve that. So for me, with People Please, and I just realized that as much as I do want to make this person happy, my happiness also matters. is valid and it's also important to me.