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Meggan Roxanne

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356 total appearances

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Podcast Appearances

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

You could not be pregnant if you were not married. So mum left, you know, but I kept seeing things. And I kept getting really interesting dreams. And I remember from a young age, my mother would say to me, you know, you have to get ready to, like, education is the most important thing. And I said to her, not in my life. I'm going to live my life when I'm 30.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

You could not be pregnant if you were not married. So mum left, you know, but I kept seeing things. And I kept getting really interesting dreams. And I remember from a young age, my mother would say to me, you know, you have to get ready to, like, education is the most important thing. And I said to her, not in my life. I'm going to live my life when I'm 30.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

That's when life is coming for me because I kept getting told that, whether it was in my dreams or just something subconsciously. Life will start for you in your mid-30s. Everything leading up to that would be experience. And that's literally what has happened. So I allowed myself to make loads of mistakes and try and fail.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

That's when life is coming for me because I kept getting told that, whether it was in my dreams or just something subconsciously. Life will start for you in your mid-30s. Everything leading up to that would be experience. And that's literally what has happened. So I allowed myself to make loads of mistakes and try and fail.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

And I did a lot of that on the good quote with myself and it boosted me enough to make me realize that I'm a good writer. You know, even though I knew that I was kind of bred to become a writer, my mother loved literature. So sharing my work wasn't difficult after a while, but at first it was so intense. The imposter syndrome was wild, you know, some other writers would get 100,000 likes.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

And I did a lot of that on the good quote with myself and it boosted me enough to make me realize that I'm a good writer. You know, even though I knew that I was kind of bred to become a writer, my mother loved literature. So sharing my work wasn't difficult after a while, but at first it was so intense. The imposter syndrome was wild, you know, some other writers would get 100,000 likes.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

I would get 50 and I'll be upset with that. It's crazy because it's like 50,000 people is two O2 arenas. If you ever stood in the O2 arena and you look around, I think the capacity is 25,000 seats. Two of them full of people liked what I had to say, but because this writer got 100K, I don't feel, I hated that energy. It took away from the creativity. It took away from my love.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

I would get 50 and I'll be upset with that. It's crazy because it's like 50,000 people is two O2 arenas. If you ever stood in the O2 arena and you look around, I think the capacity is 25,000 seats. Two of them full of people liked what I had to say, but because this writer got 100K, I don't feel, I hated that energy. It took away from the creativity. It took away from my love.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

It took away from the experience that I needed in order to create that particular quote. So I posted myself once or twice a week. And that's kind of the habit that I've been doing over the years.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

It took away from the experience that I needed in order to create that particular quote. So I posted myself once or twice a week. And that's kind of the habit that I've been doing over the years.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

So my mother was born in a board house in Trinidad. It's a house that consists of board-like material on wooden stilts, very basic, you know, two bedrooms, a living room, a kitchen, a lot of people in the house. So you had to stand up for yourself in that house. Even if it came to dinner time, the best meat is being taken by your great uncle or your cousin. You have to stand up for yourself.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

So my mother was born in a board house in Trinidad. It's a house that consists of board-like material on wooden stilts, very basic, you know, two bedrooms, a living room, a kitchen, a lot of people in the house. So you had to stand up for yourself in that house. Even if it came to dinner time, the best meat is being taken by your great uncle or your cousin. You have to stand up for yourself.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

Then you take that person, bring them to England, very similar environment, a lot more damaging, you know, still have to stick up for yourself. My mother didn't stick up for herself there.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

Then you take that person, bring them to England, very similar environment, a lot more damaging, you know, still have to stick up for yourself. My mother didn't stick up for herself there.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

So when it came to her raising me, like I said before, all of the mistakes that she made, all the things that she saw or witnessed growing up in her house in London with her family, she was not bringing that into our house. So my house was full of so many things. different affirmations. Every day was just like a particular prayer I had to say.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

So when it came to her raising me, like I said before, all of the mistakes that she made, all the things that she saw or witnessed growing up in her house in London with her family, she was not bringing that into our house. So my house was full of so many things. different affirmations. Every day was just like a particular prayer I had to say.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

Then it was followed by a list of affirmations that I would say to myself from four. These were the things. I am smart. I am beautiful. I can do anything I put my mind to every day. And then that went from affirmations to my mother affirming my creativity. So, you know, when you're a kid and you create images and your parents might put it on the fridge or they might put it on the wall.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

Then it was followed by a list of affirmations that I would say to myself from four. These were the things. I am smart. I am beautiful. I can do anything I put my mind to every day. And then that went from affirmations to my mother affirming my creativity. So, you know, when you're a kid and you create images and your parents might put it on the fridge or they might put it on the wall.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

My kitchen was my gallery. Right. So I was raised in an environment where it was just like anything that I want to do creatively, creatively, I have the freedom to do that. Communication was a huge thing with my mother and myself. We barely watched TV. It was always books or just lying in bed and talking. And my mother would feed me. and entertain me through life stories of her own.

On Purpose with Jay Shetty
If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

My kitchen was my gallery. Right. So I was raised in an environment where it was just like anything that I want to do creatively, creatively, I have the freedom to do that. Communication was a huge thing with my mother and myself. We barely watched TV. It was always books or just lying in bed and talking. And my mother would feed me. and entertain me through life stories of her own.