Mel Robbins

And recently, he led one of the largest studies ever on the topic of regret.

And he says regret is not meant to bury you.

It's not meant to punish you.

It's meant to teach you something you need to learn.

But you can only learn what regret has to teach you if you stop replaying things and start asking yourself, what is the regret trying to show you?

As long as you keep looking backward,

Your life will never move forward.

That's why you have to decide.

Enough is enough.

Change begins with a decision.

And in Kristen's case, she has to decide that she's going to stop giving more time to her ex.

I mean, it's been years now that she's given to this relationship that's over.

The life that she keeps reaching for no longer exists.

She has to turn toward the future and make a decision that she is going to move forward and she is going to do whatever it takes to create a life where she's happy.

And the reason why I'm hammering the power of making a decision as the singular solution to the problem is

of being trapped, feeling not ready, feeling regretful, focusing on the past, convincing yourself actively that even if you tried to move forward, you'd never be as happy as you used to be.

It's complete BS.

The decision is what sets you free.

It will give you something to build toward.

And that is what will break you free from the trap of not being ready.