Mel Robbins

If she's been living in regret in the constant loop over a breakup with her ex, in my mind, the decision is very obvious.

You have to make a decision to move forward.

You have to say this next chapter of my life is going to be one of the best chapters of my life because I'm going to create that for myself.

And in particular, when you're dealing with regret, the research is very clear on this.

Daniel Pink is a multiple New York Times bestselling author and considered one of the most influential thinkers of our time.

And recently, he led one of the largest studies ever on the topic of regret.

And he says regret is not meant to bury you.

It's not meant to punish you.

It's meant to teach you something you need to learn.

But you can only learn what regret has to teach you if you stop replaying things and start asking yourself, what is the regret trying to show you?

As long as you keep looking backward,

Your life will never move forward.

That's why you have to decide.

Enough is enough.

Change begins with a decision.

And in Kristen's case, she has to decide that she's going to stop giving more time to her ex.

I mean, it's been years now that she's given to this relationship that's over.

The life that she keeps reaching for no longer exists.

She has to turn toward the future and make a decision that she is going to move forward and she is going to do whatever it takes to create a life where she's happy.

And the reason why I'm hammering the power of making a decision as the singular solution to the problem is