Mel Schilling

So if you need to, if you get a bit wobbly, you can go back and check on it.

It's a contract with yourself.

And I think these kinds of tools can be really, really helpful as you're learning, you know, to start navigating this new world of consent because it is different and it won't come naturally.

Yeah.

But then I guess the next piece is how do I say it?

Yeah.

Because that is hard.

Yeah.

You know, I think you make a good point there with the texting because these days the beauty of communication is it's multifaceted.

It doesn't all have to be verbal face-to-face.

You can use other mediums.

So if you're more comfortable before a date saying, really looking forward to seeing you tonight, just letting you know I won't be staying over but really happy to enjoy dinner and maybe a drink afterwards.

Yeah.

Setting that expectation so it takes a lot of the pressure off.

I mean, help.

Yeah.

So I think of women now dating, maybe in our age and older, who maybe in previous relationships didn't feel comfortable with sexual activity but just did it.

Yes.

Because that's what they should do.

Now finding their voice to actually say...