Mel Schilling

You can do it in a non-verbal way.

So for example, if someone's behind me in the line, I'm lining up for a coffee and they're too close, I'll turn around, give them a look and move away a little bit.

And so non-verbally, I can be saying to them, too close, mate.

Yeah.

Or on the tube, classic example.

Always opportunities.

People too close to you on YouTube.

And that's probably a good place to start practicing it actually, to start giving someone the look.

So eye contact to say, I'm serious.

I'm not comfortable with this.

And then move yourself away.

Creating a physical barrier between yourself and the uncomfortable situation is a good move.

So whether that's literally moving to the other side of the train, putting a book up, you know, those sorts of things are good practice that will help you that when you get into that sexual dilemma that might be a bit uncomfortable, you'll be a little bit more comfortable.

It's all part of the continuous consent conversation.

So just because you've consented to it before doesn't mean you will now.

Bringing something new in, you've got to have the conversation.

You know, I think this is we're coming back to all those values we were talking about with you and Michael with the humour and the trust and the honesty.

Having all of those elements in place enable you to have those beautiful conversations and to maybe not take it too seriously and say, look, I feel like a bit of a dick, but, you know, I really want to try bringing a third person in.

What do you think?

You know, haven't done it before.