Melissa Kircher

Their fear is of loss and separation and annihilation.

So not having a sense of self if they lose connection with important people in their lives.

So what they tend to do is make sure they're in harmony or unity or peace with themselves and with others.

And they merge and go along with other people in order to maintain connections that feel good or that they feel are life-giving or necessary.

They take their fire and passion, which does exist, dampen it down and go asleep to that and who they are for a little while.

But it doesn't stay that way forever.

Nines have times where that kind of wakes up and they're not as

flowy and easygoing and sometimes that's like a volcanic eruption and sometimes it's, oh no, I matter and this is the right thing and I'm important in life.

So they're very warm, very friendly people.

They tend to have trouble with prioritizing things because everything feels equally important.

important.

But then when they get in down into themselves and wake up a little bit, then they're actually like, oh, wait, this is what's important.

This is what I need to do.

When you do the inner work, you find all these cool qualities and they have the ability to be amazing mediators.

That's why they're at the top, because nines often see themselves in all the other nine, all the other eight types, because they can truly understand the

Whereas fives seek to understand, right, and can make neutral space, nines actually innately understand all the other types and where everybody's coming from, which makes them excellent mediators, right?

If there's a problem, when they can go in with peacemaking...

There's peacekeeping, which is what they tend to do.

Keep the peace, keep it harmony.

But when they go in with peacemaking, they can really help people who are at odds find connection and come together in ways that others, some of us, just have no talent in doing.