Melissa Kircher

When I learned about even being a challenger, I caught myself in a lot of conversations being a challenger, being the one who said, you can do this.

I know you can do this.

If you do X, Y, and Z, you can make that happen.

And...

I understanding that side of who I might be allowed me to pull back and become a much better listener and not a challenger when it wasn't the place to be.

And that really strengthened a lot of relationships for me because I could understand my own flaw in a moment as it was happening.

Yeah, that's what awareness does.

There's the three A's in life coaching, which is awareness, acceptance, action.

And so if you're working with that, you're seeing and being aware, then you're accepting about yourself.

Then you decide.

what you want to do with it, right?

And so the Enneagram gives you really specific ways to get into all of the nooks and crannies of yourself to make that happen in a myriad of different ways.

But the acceptance part is really important because it gives you, I feel like acceptance gives you more of an ability to change in ways that are congruent and alignment, like with your core values and who you want to be as a person versus just like

crapping on yourself.

We don't need to do that.

That's not what we're here to do.

We're here to be nice to ourselves, right?

We want to grow, but we want to grow from a place of love, not a place of, oh, I'm so bad and I'm so terrible and I failed so much.

Like, sure, yeah, we all make mistakes, but let's get to the reason why that happened.

Let's be kind, accept it, and then say, okay, what do I want to do now?