Melissa Vranjes

Because this person is potentially using tricks that they used on somebody else and going, why aren't they working here?

Yeah.

Whereas when we masturbate or we touch ourselves, self-pleasure, we're going, oh, I love it when my clit has been touched like that.

Or I love that move.

When we're being touched like that, you know, it's like all these things.

And then we can say to our partner, hey, can you try this thing?

It's X, Y, Z. You know, it's like putting your tongue there.

Yeah, that feels so good.

Everybody wins when we masturbate.

I think it's acknowledging the stories that we have around it.

So the work I do with clients always is acknowledging what we've been like, what's the story that you have in your head?

What have you been telling yourself?

So I had a client who...

got caught masturbating when she was younger.

She got told off for it.

And this is really common.

I've heard different varieties of the stories.

She got told off for it.

Therefore, she had the ingrained story in her body like, this is really not a good thing to be doing.

I'm going to get told off for doing it.