Melissa Vranjes

What's happening in the body as I take you through this process?

Because shame, disgust, revolt, all of these feelings are so intense in the body that we always want to push them down and get as far away as possible from them.

So usually we don't acknowledge them.

We don't sit with them.

But when we sit with them, the charge of them slowly starts to dissipate.

And it's like, oh, underneath the disgust or shame is actually a bit of pleasure.

or is actually a bit of like empowerment or like, oh my God, this actually kind of feels good.

And we allow ourselves to move through the layers of the conditioning and all of that and access the pleasure and aliveness and eroticism and orgasmic potential underneath.

So yeah, I'm kind of working on that scale with people all the way up to using toys and feeling good about actually like getting themselves off.

Yeah, I don't deserve, like, the time or the pleasure.

Yeah.

Yeah, deserving of pleasure and having that time on you.

Did that feel deep?

Yeah, it did.

It feels like a big piece.

Yes, absolutely.

It's so beneficial for everybody.

You know, it's just literally giving the partner that you want to have sex with the roadmap to your body, to your pleasure, to your orgasm, you know.

And it's just like, it's opening you up to different ways of pleasure.

And, you know, it's just like, we're actually regulating the nervous system through touch.