Melissa Vranjes

The way we touch ourselves is wiring our bodies to receive that type of touch from a lover.

You know, so if we're like touching ourselves slowly and it's sensual and there's lots of anticipation or exploration, things like that, but then our partner's like...

Which, you know, you can't bite your own nipples, so that's something that you probably can't do.

I mean, it depends.

Definitely can't reach.

You know, if you've been breastfeeding for a while.

Anyway, so I think, yeah, it's just it helps everybody involved.

And remember, every time you meet a new partner –

It's a new body.

Don't try the old tricks on this new body that's in front of you.

Ask them, hey, how do you like being touched?

Like, does this feel good?

Remember feedback is your friend.

And that, yeah, being able to share that with somebody is,

That's the missing piece, isn't it?

It's like, okay, I know this about my body.

I masturbate.

I feel really good about it.

But now I've got to tell somebody.

And that communication piece is what trips so many people up.