Melissa Vranjes

Yeah, I don't have it on my notes.

But, you know, they're talking about that.

And like, what are your thoughts on that?

And that way you're just not revealing too much of yourself.

Sharing a sexual fantasy feels really overwhelming for you, but you want to start the process of talking about it and exploring it.

But that's what holds people back from communicating a lot of things in sex, not just fantasy.

Am I going to scare them off?

Are they going to judge me?

Will I lose them?

And it's like you've got to be able to sit with those fear stories and go, wow, this is important to me.

If the fantasy is so important to you, it's something that you need to get off, then openly communicate it because you don't know who's going to be like,

fuck yeah let's get that on board let's give that a go like thanks so much for sharing that with me I love that too I just met my soulmate at the pub they both we both have golden showers oh my god golden showers no or like we both love being tied up or you know I think it's really cool if you have that confidence to dive in you could absolutely explore it on a one-night stand

That's not weird.

It's just a kink, by the way.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, well, you definitely wouldn't answer like that.

I think it's remembering a fantasy isn't a request.

It's just someone being open to an exploration with you or an idea.

And if it feels if it's like, oh, my God, I would not want to like pee or I would not want to be peed on you, you pee, whatever.

We going everywhere.