Melissa Vranjes

It's the whole point of the podcast.

And I'm not going to say most people, but I would say a majority of people do have a sexual fantasy, whether that's something they want to play out, don't want to play out, but just want to keep in their imagination or a bit of both.

But yeah, I would say most people do.

And don't like go to their deathbeds not saying it.

One of them requires a lot of people.

Wow.

Oh, my gosh.

Even just...

talking about it so first you've got to get over the hurdle of actually sharing it with your partner which is like most people don't share that sexual fantasy because what will my partner think of me are they going to think I'm weird are they going to judge me will this ruin our sex life will they think they're not enough for me you know so much stuff shame guilt pressure comes up so you've got to get over that hurdle which is a big one for people

Right.

Right.

And feeling excited or curious or non-judgmental about that makes it really hot.

You know, even someone say, and how would you like me to tie you up?

Okay.

Using what?

Where should we do it?

In the room or the house or, you know, and it's like.

feeling that excitement between both of you is what makes it even hotter.

And that's not you playing it out.

That's actually just communicating what it looks like, how we could do it together.