Melissa Vranjes

We should.

Oh, my God.

This one's just on nipple clamps.

I joke.

I think the only thing that's just circling in my mind right now is really reiterating the importance of consent and safety.

Consent is that everybody is enthusiastic and on board with what is happening or going to happen.

As soon as somebody isn't excited or enthusiastic about it, it's no longer consensual.

And consent means that you are seeking the consent.

You are like checking in with everybody, start, middle and finish, that everybody's still willing and active in what's happening.

So that absolutely needs to be

in place and consent and safety is sexy you know like when someone feels safe it's like I can fully let go and allow myself to be in this experience to experience pleasure to reach climax like if you don't feel safe you're not going to get there you're not going to enjoy yourself it's

it's foundational so I think just consent and safety need to be at the foundation of everything you don't feel safe in the environment you're in with the person that you're with or what you're doing you're not going to have a good time your body will tense it'll lock up it'll shut down and you won't feel pleasure I've just realized that we have talked an entire episode about this subject and we never once mentioned penetration

yeah so BDSM is not necessarily about penetration at all neither is sex you know it's like we are so conditioned that sex means PMV but it's so limiting I know isn't that great interesting especially because a lot of women don't orgasm from penetration yeah and there's just so many things like when we look into BDSM that can create like BDSM is such a great piece of foreplay where you're building anticipation you're making someone literally beg for you

Like, just get between my legs, you know, or just like, just suck my... Yeah.

So I think BDSM is just an amazing tool for connection, arousal, erotic edge, teasing, tension.

It's amazing.

Or have you been a bad girl?

Yes, okay.

So out to everyone here.

Let's start with one of the beginner-friendly BDSM practices that doesn't require tools.