Melissa Vranjes

Yeah, or the nurse.

Yeah, and also it can kind of destigmatize sex a bit.

It can open up a conversation in sex, especially if we're going to say, hey, let's watch something together.

It can open up a conversation around your desires and your fantasies in relationship as well.

Yeah, I think it's really common when you're single to watch it.

But what I see, especially for females as well, is using porn and a vibrator as this like quick thing that gets you to orgasm super quick.

We kind of like bypassing the foreplay, the build up, and people aren't having the type of orgasms they want to.

And then we're wiring up the female body to go...

but I come in two minutes when I'm by myself.

Now, when I'm with a partner, why doesn't that happen?

And I work with so many women around this.

It's like, I can come really quickly with my vibrator solo, but not with my partner.

What's happening there?

And I'm like, tell me what you're doing in self-pleasure.

And it's like, sometimes I watch porn, sometimes I'm like, okay, cool.

So what's happening is we've got this super quick dopamine hit of,

We can just go straight into 10 minutes, 15 seconds where somebody's like having the time of their life.

We've got our and we're just going to the scene and playing it back over and over again for however long, two minutes.

And then finishing and going, oh, so but why can't I come with my partner?

And it's like, first of all, you haven't got that visual stimulation.