Melissa Vranjes

And then we can say to our partner, hey, can you try this thing?

It's X, Y, Z. You know, it's like putting your tongue there.

Yeah, that feels so good.

Everybody wins when we masturbate.

I think it's acknowledging the stories that we have around it.

So the work I do with clients always is acknowledging what we've been like, what's the story that you have in your head?

What have you been telling yourself?

So I had a client who...

got caught masturbating when she was younger.

She got told off for it.

And this is really common.

I've heard different varieties of the stories.

She got told off for it.

Therefore, she had the ingrained story in her body like, this is really not a good thing to be doing.

I'm going to get told off for doing it.

The nervous system has learned that when I touch my body, it's bad.

Therefore, when we try and do it later in life, it's like, oh, it's just not working or it's

It doesn't, I don't really enjoy it.

And it's like, wait, when we go a little bit deeper and understand where did that come from?

What, oh, well, when I was 17, when I was 16, I got caught.