Melissa Vranjes

So when we're touching other parts of the vulva, we're actually activating the clitoris.

You know?

So it's like the urethra, when we come down here, it's like the clitoral body or the root area.

is in this part here so we're just stimulating another part of the clitoris via external touch so if you do an upside down horseshoe yeah over like where you pee yeah super sensitive touch and just to explore like what happens if i move down a little bit because our anatomy is all placed differently yeah what happens if i move down a little bit how is it oh yeah no that's oh that's a bit sensitive if as soon as it starts to feel painful or like

You get agitated to touch it, you're not going to build pleasure.

Move away from it, go to another pleasure part of the body.

I mean, they could do.

But yeah, you've got to understand your body first before somebody else.

You know, it's not your partner's job to know your body more than you.

It's not your partner's job to give you an orgasm either.

Your pleasure is your responsibility.

And I think, honestly, the standard is that you give me an orgasm.

I think that's the standard.

Most people don't come into that place of like my pleasure is my responsibility, which when we break that down, it means like I need to understand my body to experience more pleasure.

I shouldn't rely on you anymore.

to learn about my body me not taking any responsibility or taking a part in that and you just making that thing happen to my body whereas when i take responsibility for my pleasure and i learn about like this u spot or this a spot or g spot and i touch myself there and i give myself an orgasm i can then go to a partner and say hey can you try this thing like can you do that thing to me you know and it's like they're not guessing they're like oh my god yeah let me let's try that and it's like oh it's

Does it feel the same?

Let's try this.

You know, it gets to be explorative and fun.

And that's how we experience pleasure.