Melissa Vranjes

When I went through heartbreak at like 20 or something, I was celibate for like a year and it was just such a fun year of exploring my own body, buying toys, understanding what I liked, you know, and it's like, why should I not experience pleasure because I'm single?

You know, why should I just, like, collect dust down there and not experience pleasure?

Like, absolutely not.

Of course.

Of course I deserve to experience pleasure and orgasms.

Yeah, let's start.

So how to masturbate.

Should we go into a few tips and techniques?

Are we ready for that?

So the first thing is slowing down.

So instead of going straight to your clit or straight to your shaft, it's like slowing everything down and building yourself up.

A lot of people are masturbating way too quickly and just kind of short-circuiting their pleasure experience.

So slow down the touch, slow down the journey of it, slow down the speed of your vibrator or your toy, breathe into your body, and let it be an experience.

Tease yourself, right?

Rather than just like, all right, I'm just going to rub this out and get it over and done with, which a lot of people do, especially men.

There's a lot of like around masturbation.

I've just got to quickly get this over and done with before somebody catches me, which is why a lot of men have wired up their bodies to come really quickly.

So when they're in partnered sex, it's like I can't last any longer than two minutes or three minutes during penetration.

And that's because they're

wanking and going, I better not get caught, I better not get caught, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, and try and get there as quick as possible.