Melody Beattie

Nothing felt right about it, but nothing had really felt right my entire life. So I started bugging my sponsor and bugging people in the program and say, you know, this isn't, there's something going on here. It's like, shh, just go to your meetings and don't make a problem.

But I couldn't, I became obsessed with finding out what was going on with me, what I could be doing that didn't involve putting a substance in me. that could be causing and creating this kind of havoc inside of my entire being.

But I couldn't, I became obsessed with finding out what was going on with me, what I could be doing that didn't involve putting a substance in me. that could be causing and creating this kind of havoc inside of my entire being.

But I couldn't, I became obsessed with finding out what was going on with me, what I could be doing that didn't involve putting a substance in me. that could be causing and creating this kind of havoc inside of my entire being.

No, I had been clean and sober for two, three years by then. And, you know, working a program, but you wouldn't know it by the way I felt. And I thought, oh my God, here I am clean and sober and, you know, hard pressed to find a true reason to live other than caring for other people.

No, I had been clean and sober for two, three years by then. And, you know, working a program, but you wouldn't know it by the way I felt. And I thought, oh my God, here I am clean and sober and, you know, hard pressed to find a true reason to live other than caring for other people.

No, I had been clean and sober for two, three years by then. And, you know, working a program, but you wouldn't know it by the way I felt. And I thought, oh my God, here I am clean and sober and, you know, hard pressed to find a true reason to live other than caring for other people.

And so I kept up this obsessive search, which began, I would say, 1976 until 1985 when I wrote the book.

And so I kept up this obsessive search, which began, I would say, 1976 until 1985 when I wrote the book.

And so I kept up this obsessive search, which began, I would say, 1976 until 1985 when I wrote the book.

We go off. We go off. We're not tuned in. We become misaligned. When we're misaligned with ourselves, we really can't tune in to much else. And that's what happened. You know, there's so much talk now about people gaslighting other people. No one can gaslight me as well as I can gaslight myself. Tell myself my feelings don't matter. What I want doesn't matter. I'm overreacting.

We go off. We go off. We're not tuned in. We become misaligned. When we're misaligned with ourselves, we really can't tune in to much else. And that's what happened. You know, there's so much talk now about people gaslighting other people. No one can gaslight me as well as I can gaslight myself. Tell myself my feelings don't matter. What I want doesn't matter. I'm overreacting.

We go off. We go off. We're not tuned in. We become misaligned. When we're misaligned with ourselves, we really can't tune in to much else. And that's what happened. You know, there's so much talk now about people gaslighting other people. No one can gaslight me as well as I can gaslight myself. Tell myself my feelings don't matter. What I want doesn't matter. I'm overreacting.

All the things we do to invalidate our natural, normal human responses to life.

All the things we do to invalidate our natural, normal human responses to life.

All the things we do to invalidate our natural, normal human responses to life.

Well, that wasn't really the first definition. It was, has let ourselves become obsessed or controlled by another person's behavior.

Well, that wasn't really the first definition. It was, has let ourselves become obsessed or controlled by another person's behavior.

Well, that wasn't really the first definition. It was, has let ourselves become obsessed or controlled by another person's behavior.

That can be like from little things like not picking up your socks to, you know, drinking away the family's finances. Everything is on a scale, isn't it? Of what we're doing and why we're doing it. We all have different impulses that motivate us. But when it comes to codependency, luckily we're in this lovely boat together.