Melody Beattie

We couldn't trust ourselves because someone was gaslighting us. And I would say it takes a couple hours of my energy every day to focus on letting go of my control issues. Oh, wow. How do you do that? A lot of meditation, a whole lot of meditation, yoga. I have a yoga routine that I'm able to do every day and actually in this podcast room.

But by getting into my body, by getting out of the world around me, and not sticking my finger in the light socket of scrolling on my phone and just getting into who I am, relaxing with myself, remembering what I enjoy, remembering all I have right now. It's so ungodly easy to see what we don't have.

But by getting into my body, by getting out of the world around me, and not sticking my finger in the light socket of scrolling on my phone and just getting into who I am, relaxing with myself, remembering what I enjoy, remembering all I have right now. It's so ungodly easy to see what we don't have.

But by getting into my body, by getting out of the world around me, and not sticking my finger in the light socket of scrolling on my phone and just getting into who I am, relaxing with myself, remembering what I enjoy, remembering all I have right now. It's so ungodly easy to see what we don't have.

We are completely plugged in to the electrical circuits of almost every other human being on this planet. We pick up their anxiety. We pick up their fear. I mean, we're all like tapped into this big spider web of ethers.

We are completely plugged in to the electrical circuits of almost every other human being on this planet. We pick up their anxiety. We pick up their fear. I mean, we're all like tapped into this big spider web of ethers.

We are completely plugged in to the electrical circuits of almost every other human being on this planet. We pick up their anxiety. We pick up their fear. I mean, we're all like tapped into this big spider web of ethers.

of course we're going to have anxiety and it gets, it gets to the point where sometimes if I'm not feeling enough anxiety, I'll scroll through my phone to start a little bit of it. So yeah, I spent a lot of time working on staying at peace. I think that's so much better than being happy because even being happy can be a distraction, but being peaceful really works for me. That's amazing.

of course we're going to have anxiety and it gets, it gets to the point where sometimes if I'm not feeling enough anxiety, I'll scroll through my phone to start a little bit of it. So yeah, I spent a lot of time working on staying at peace. I think that's so much better than being happy because even being happy can be a distraction, but being peaceful really works for me. That's amazing.

of course we're going to have anxiety and it gets, it gets to the point where sometimes if I'm not feeling enough anxiety, I'll scroll through my phone to start a little bit of it. So yeah, I spent a lot of time working on staying at peace. I think that's so much better than being happy because even being happy can be a distraction, but being peaceful really works for me. That's amazing.

Absolutely. It's all an illusion. This whole, I can control you, you're controlling me. It's all an illusion and it can crumble quite quickly and usually does. We can't control any human being. They are going to do what they want to do.

Absolutely. It's all an illusion. This whole, I can control you, you're controlling me. It's all an illusion and it can crumble quite quickly and usually does. We can't control any human being. They are going to do what they want to do.

Absolutely. It's all an illusion. This whole, I can control you, you're controlling me. It's all an illusion and it can crumble quite quickly and usually does. We can't control any human being. They are going to do what they want to do.

Okay. This happened, um, fairly deeply into my marriage after I had been, you know, trying to convince myself I could deal with it. It wasn't as bad as I thought, but yet it was. And I had already told David and we had two kids. I had two kids still in diapers. And I told him, you know, if you drink again, we are over. We're ended. And he went to Vegas and I said, well, promise me you won't drink.

Okay. This happened, um, fairly deeply into my marriage after I had been, you know, trying to convince myself I could deal with it. It wasn't as bad as I thought, but yet it was. And I had already told David and we had two kids. I had two kids still in diapers. And I told him, you know, if you drink again, we are over. We're ended. And he went to Vegas and I said, well, promise me you won't drink.

Okay. This happened, um, fairly deeply into my marriage after I had been, you know, trying to convince myself I could deal with it. It wasn't as bad as I thought, but yet it was. And I had already told David and we had two kids. I had two kids still in diapers. And I told him, you know, if you drink again, we are over. We're ended. And he went to Vegas and I said, well, promise me you won't drink.

He said, of course not. So I, We were scheduled to hold a party at the home we had in Minneapolis for a neighbor who introduced me to Al-Anon and had put herself through nursing school. And he was supposed to be home. And it was a big deal to me to be able to thank her. She had helped me. And he didn't show up. I hadn't heard from him. I started calling him on the phone.

He said, of course not. So I, We were scheduled to hold a party at the home we had in Minneapolis for a neighbor who introduced me to Al-Anon and had put herself through nursing school. And he was supposed to be home. And it was a big deal to me to be able to thank her. She had helped me. And he didn't show up. I hadn't heard from him. I started calling him on the phone.

He said, of course not. So I, We were scheduled to hold a party at the home we had in Minneapolis for a neighbor who introduced me to Al-Anon and had put herself through nursing school. And he was supposed to be home. And it was a big deal to me to be able to thank her. She had helped me. And he didn't show up. I hadn't heard from him. I started calling him on the phone.

The hotel would put me through and it would just ring into that. And I know, you know, when you're a good codependent, you know, you don't really need confirmation, do you? But ultimately he did pick up the phone and I heard, you know, literally almost a glug, glug, glug. As you know, he poured liquid into either into his throat, into something. And I went, oh man, here we go again.