Mercedes Coffman

And I love that you kind of gave that parallel because it's true.

That's the balance between when you become biochemically hijacked, right?

Where you just, the chemistry just feels so intense and you're like, but I just want that person.

Like, I just want that person.

And it becomes a challenge and everything in you is giving off the pheromones that, hey, I'm available to you, right?

And so there's a, sure, that's one part of us is our biochemistry, but the universe didn't just give us that.

It also gave us a frontal lobe.

And that part goes-

hmm, yeah, this drug might give me energy, but it also will make me lose all my money.

Or this person is incredibly handsome, but they're going to break my heart, right?

But that requires pause.

It requires processing.

It requires going, I know what I'm feeling.

I'm feeling attracted to this person, but let me take a pause.

Let me think about it.

Let me step away because if I act right now, I'm going to act on biochemistry.

And that has nothing to do with mental clarity.

It just has to do with the feelings, the sphere you just described.

And that doesn't tell me anything about how this person is going to treat me.

Absolutely.